I get asked all the time what do I need to be wearing to ‘show’ up at work in a more Power-FULL way?
Before I answer that question a little about me…. I was a Personal Shopper and Stylist turned Image Consultant for almost a decade. I taught over 5,000 men and women how to make the best first impression to get a job. Some got jobs and some didn’t.
I dressed them all in powerful suits and through working with that many people I had some HUGE realizations about humans.
While I could help them feel amazing for the few hours we shopped or for the duration of consulting with them on their existing wardrobe, I could only build them up so far and then many would fall back down into a spiral of low-self esteem. My heart went out to them and I knew there was more to this than what the eye could see.
This was upsetting because I grew up a very big people-pleaser and out of this grew serious curiosity about people and their motivations of behaviour. Like many in the service industry I began to provide a support-role to many of these women who on the outside looked powerful and on the inside were struggling asking me for advice on how to handle a conversation with their boss or how to ask for their needs to be met by their spouse. I knew they mattered and deserved the BEST outcome. They didn’t think they were enough.
Fast forward years later, I’m now an NLP Results Coach and Trainer. If there is one thing I realized it was that I couldn’t actually help these women with what really mattered to their happiness. It’s not to say the work that I did wasn’t important, because it is. If you dress dumpy you will never get a job or that promotion. You could use your clothing to fake it until you make it and then eventually people see the truth and you need an upgrade to your strategies of behaviour.
I knew that I needed to be helping in a deeper way.
So going back to that question, how do you dress to be powerful. Put on a classic, stylish dark suit with fierce shoes AND then turn to the Inside and update your operating system! The most important thing is that the clothing you choose is anchored to positive and empowering emotions. This is why the perfect fit produces happy emotions and powerful emotions.
The REAL power comes from within. And did I mention that I work with unconscious programming?
What you might not realize is that we are adults running our childhood programming. Have you ever seen a temper tantrum in your office? And there is no judgement because people are doing the best that they can with the resources that they have. They wake up and unconsciously hit play to run their movie. It’s not that people don’t want to be their best it’s that they can only do behaviours that they are programmed to do.
To learn more about how your programming is impacting your life, let’s chat for a complimentary call and I’ll help you put the pieces together, ones you simply can’t because they are at the unconscious level. I’m here to help.