Image Tips for Being Powerful Women..It’s Not what You Think

I get asked all the time what do I need to be wearing to ‘show’ up at work in a more Power-FULL way?

Before I answer that question a little about me…. I was a Personal Shopper and Stylist turned Image Consultant for almost a decade. I taught over 5,000 men and women how to make the best first impression to get a job. Some got jobs and some didn’t.

I dressed them all in powerful suits and through working with that many people I had some HUGE realizations about humans.

While I could help them feel amazing for the few hours we shopped or for the duration of consulting with them on their existing wardrobe, I could only build them up so far and then many would fall back down into a spiral of low-self esteem. My heart went out to them and I knew there was more to this than what the eye could see.

This was upsetting because I grew up a very big people-pleaser and out of this grew serious curiosity about people and their motivations of behaviour. Like many in the service industry I began to provide a support-role to many of these women who on the outside looked powerful and on the inside were struggling asking me for advice on how to handle a conversation with their boss or how to ask for their needs to be met by their spouse. I knew they mattered and deserved the BEST outcome. They didn’t think they were enough.

Fast forward years later, I’m now an NLP Results Coach and Trainer. If there is one thing I realized it was that I couldn’t actually help these women with what really mattered to their happiness. It’s not to say the work that I did wasn’t important, because it is. If you dress dumpy you will never get a job or that promotion. You could use your clothing to fake it until you make it and then eventually people see the truth and you need an upgrade to your strategies of behaviour.

I knew that I needed to be helping in a deeper way.

So going back to that question, how do you dress to be powerful. Put on a classic, stylish dark suit with fierce shoes AND then turn to the Inside and update your operating system! The most important thing is that the clothing you choose is anchored to positive and empowering emotions. This is why the perfect fit produces happy emotions and powerful emotions.

The REAL power comes from within. And did I mention that I work with unconscious programming?

What you might not realize is that we are adults running our childhood programming. Have you ever seen a temper tantrum in your office?  And there is no judgement because people are doing the best that they can with the resources that they have. They wake up and unconsciously hit play to run their movie. It’s not that people don’t want to be their best it’s that they can only do behaviours that they are programmed to do.

To learn more about how your programming is impacting your life, let’s chat for a complimentary call and I’ll help you put the pieces together, ones you simply can’t because they are at the unconscious level. I’m here to help.

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Hypnotic Tools and The Law of Attraction

I’m a believer in the Law of Attraction. BIG time.

What I teach people is that our focus determines our behaviour and our behaviour determines our RESULTS.

I’ve seen it work SO well and I’ve also experienced it not working which put me on the path of spiritual growth and learning and REALLY understanding CREATION! For the last few years I’ve been playing with creation, asking to receive more about it and when you ask you do receive. I’ve been led to mentors, teachers and other resources including my own downloads of wisdom that have helped me EXPAND in ways I never dreamed were possible years ago.

The Law of Attraction teaches us to focus on what feels good AND I’ve been taught that you absolutely MUST move the energy. I’m not talking HARD work, I’m just saying you need to get the ball rolling so it knows where to roll! It’s like turning a car on and setting the GPS or just sit in the car and you don’t bother turning on the engine and you just hope it will move.

We create ALL the time. The good stuff and the ‘other’ stuff. That ‘other’ stuff can sometimes be hard to swallow and we might get caught in wanting to blame others, like our family, our bosses and friends, when really we created it. ALL of it and for a good reason (if this is a struggle then know that if I was able to see and understand the deeper meaning in the traumas I experienced in my life then you can too).

So how do Hypnotic tools and the Law of Attraction work together?

The Law of Attraction is simply put, what we focus on grows!

Using hypnotic tools is such an effective way to clean out your internal programming through by-passing something called the critical faculty, which is where all the logic and reasoning live in a person that really is what keeps them STUCK and STUCK more. When you bypass that super rigid and inflexible critical faculty, you get into your unconscious mind, where all of your brain wiring lives and that means you get to CHANGE it AND the most important thing is this:

The ROOT of all of your problems LIVES in the unconscious Mind!!! THAT’S who you create FAST and super positive changes in your life!

Hypnotic tools are a great way to reprogram the brain. I LOVE to use Hypnosis, Time Line Therapy and other techniques such as NLP and Wholeness work.

New thoughts create new behaviours.

So how does this impact the Law of Attraction?

Your focus is now more easily aligned with what you want instead of before when your brain was focusing on all your problems and what was going wrong (most people can’t stop themselves because they lack the awareness to stop)

I call this being at effect of your life- where you live on a playing field of life happenign to you.

When you TRULY honor being the creator, you evolve and recogize that you create all the time so that really matters where your focus is. If you can’t focus on what you want then how can you create it?

If you focus on feeling BAD or guilty or frustrated you are amplifying negative emotions .

Your dreams live on a higher vibration and that is SO important!!!

So when you let go of the past, you clean out the filters that used to STOP you from attracting what you want. You then can start to focus on what makes you feel good! That is a FASTER way to attract it.

Send me a message and tell me what you learned. I hope LOTS!

If you are ready to let go of those old negative emotions attached to really ineffective programs that create your life from the lense of being what you don’t want, :( that’s a sad face on purpose, then book an Illumination and Clarity call today!. If you’ve been working with your conscious mind thinking you can think your programs into abundance that’s why it’s not working. They just don’t live there. Can’t wait to help you soon!

Why Saying Positive Affirmations is GREAT and is a Mismatch to Change your ROOT of your Problems

I used to say positive affirmations ALL the time and guess what?

Nothing Changed in my life! It felt good the first few times while I said them and then……NO CHANGE! I was SO frustrated!!

So why was there no change???

Because the TRUTH (which was the opposite of what I was saying), was stored at the Unconscious Mind, RUNNING MY DAILY MOVIE!

Affirmations are at the conscious level so while you can feel good in the moment and you can then choose a better feeling, the reality is that you never change the root of where your problem actually lives.

I tried so many conscious techniques and came to realize that they produced small results over long periods of time. As I was searching and searching, I found the answer. One that can produce results in incredible speed. And that was when my life REALLY changed!

When I discovered how to clear the root of my problems my life changed in SO many ways and here’s how:

I started to ask for my needs to be met and became HAPPIER :p

I actually BECAME Power-FULL and started to action it in ways that I could never have thought were possible!

I started to live my life on my own terms because I changed my unconscious programming to really GOOD stuff. That includes seeing the possibility of my life including being an entrepreneur.

If you are seeking a FASTER way to change your life then let’s talk. I’m happy to share my story with you, one that changed the ENTIRE projection of my path and I can’t tell you how HAPPY I am that the tools fell on my lap. I have so much gratitude for my friend who brought me to an event with her (and she did it because I was complaining all the time). It was life changing. Thank you to all the teachers in my life!

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The Unconscious Meaning in your Wardrobe- Some Strategies..Part 2

In part 1 you learned about how you bring, unconscious archetype patterns, into your wardrobe and that impacts what you are projecting into your world.

Now that you have this awareness, how can you use this to build a more Power-FULL life?

Decide to consciously become SUPER aware of what you put on. Let’s remember that Awareness is always step 1!

If you don’t currently talk to your unconscious mind start now! It’s listening and you are giving it suggestions all day long through your thoughts along with any thing you hear from friends, family and in the media..

Remember, it only take hearing something 3 times to become installed! Start the conversation and ask it to make you more aware and to ask yourself for greater awareness when you get dressed.

It is about your intention behind what you do. Intention is powerful because it shapes your FOCUS! And your FOCUS determines your BEHAVIOUR. And your BEHAVIOUR determines your RESULTS!

That matters and YOU MATTER! Let’s look at an example. What is that objective you are looking to achieve?  Let’s say you have a big presentation to do or have a really important conversation planned with someone in your personal life and you need to assert your power. What you wear (anchor yourself to) will help you be Power-FULL or can Sabotage you.

Here are 3 Important Strategies for Power-FULL: Accessing and Using Colour Theory

• Darker colours are perceived at the unconscious level as powerful and authoritative so choose wisely

• Lighter colours are more calming, neutral so to amp up the power choose darker shades

Structure Vs. Flow

• Wear structured clothing (think hard lines in a crisp white shirt and fitted) as there is an unconscious  association of being taken as the authority and taken seriously

• Now if you needed to have a tough conversation and you wanted to appear as approachable (let’s say giving feedback to your staff) then wear clothing that has some flow to it (think fitted pants and flowing suit jacket)

Accessories Matter

• Do you have a piece of jewelry that is significant to you? Was it a family heirloom that brings big JOY or you a power-piece and you feel awesome wearing it? Pick a piece of jewelry that is anchored to positivity, beauty and POWER! This WILL impact you and direct your energy in a specific way.  And pay special attention to your handbag, shoes and other accessories. We unconsciously anchor things ALL the time!

Congratulations on creating new awareness and remember to start the conversation with your unconscious mind! Use your intention to bring in more POWER! Cheers to living empowered!

If you are ready to start living more awakened so you can Emerge and Impact and even create that book or program you wish you had the confidence to make it happen , then book an Illumination and Clarity call with me today.